Please understand this one thing: life will give you WHATEVER you want … eventually!
What that means is you can achieve virtually anything, and life will be happy to give it to you — if you just keep asking for it. If you just keep persisting towards getting it.
Here’s a great poem:
“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.
For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”
This means you can basically have whatever you want out of your life, if you’ll only ASK for it!
But What Does “Asking” Mean?
Ahh … now this is where the rubber meets the road!
Asking of life is a simple progress:
- Deciding on what you want …
- Getting started going there …
- Never stopping till you get there!
That’s what “Asking” of life is.
Most people never get past step 1. They don’t even know what they want out of life. They life life in “default” mode. They do what their parents, teachers, preachers and other authority figures tell them to do — and it shows because they’re hopelessly lost in life.
Then after years, decades even, of living a life they never intended to live they wonder why they’re not happy. Why they dread getting up in the morning. Why life is so hard. They think it must have something to do with their present surroundings so they try to change — all the wrong things — and too late:
- The man facing a mid-life “I hate my career” challenge decides to divorce his wife because his lack of passion in what he does with his hands has made his relationship grow cold too (what he doesn’t realize is he’ll be just as miserable after the divorce as before — because he’s not really LIVING his life!) — OR the flip side …
- The woman who is married to the man lacking passion for his place in the world — the man’s content with what he has “asked” of life — and is complacent, has let himself go and is no longer (to use the phrase David Deida would use) “F*cking the world” — penetrating it with his unique gifts. This lack of passion poisons the relationship too & he basically ignores her like furniture in his house. She cheats on him just to get some emotion from him (even a bad emotion is still emotion to her!)
So you see, there are TONS of problems that come from not “asking” of life exactly what you want. Not getting up every morning and thinking
“thank you for this new day, this first breath! Just for today … why not the best?”
And then going on to do whatever it is you think you were put on this earth to do.
You Playing Small Serves NOBODY!
I’m not saying I’m completely immune to this one, because I still fight it every day. But why not the best?
A huge reason is it puts us outside our comfort zone to be the best we can be … to ask of life exactly what we want while we know others are thinking “what gives him the right?” … to excel in greatness in everything we do — at the risk of offending someone else.
But here’s the thing: it serves NO-ONE if you’re thinking small.
Life Will Give You Whatever You Ask Of It — So Ask BIG!
Here’s some small thinking, and fixed with big thinking:
- Small thinking: “my job pays the bills, I guess it’s ok” to BIG THINKING: “my job is ok now, because it pays the bills, but I’m going to start my own business on the side and become a millionaire before I retire because that’s what I’m really passionate about!”
- Small thinking: “I’m not really happy with my woman or my relationship … but it’s just so much work to go out and meet new people” to BIG THINKING: “I’m not happy in this relationship, but it’s only going to get worse. I might as well end it now for me AND her sake — I’m going to do my best to make sure I’m happy & encourage her to do the same!”
- Small thinking: “I don’t want to be too good at what I do–it’s not my place and my friends may not like me anymore” to BIG THINKING: “This is it, I refuse to be small-time at anything — I’m going to excel & if my friends can’t handle the new me, then I guess I need to find new friends!”
- Small thinking: “I want to change the way I look, but I don’t want my friends to make fun of me for not eating the same stuff as them anymore, spending time at the gym, etc” to BIG THINKING: “I’m going to change the way I look, come hell or high water, and if my current friends aren’t cool with it (or want to change with me) I guess I’m gonna find some new friends at the gym!”
So don’t think small, think BIG!
An Important Point: “EVENTUALLY”
There’s a reason I put “Eventually” in the title of this article and that’s because VERY often nothing works out the first time you try it …
Or the second … the third … or the 999th time — like when Edison was trying to invent the light bulb. But notice, Edison DID eventually invent the light bulb and that’s because life will EVENTUALLY give you what you want — you just gotta keep asking.
And that “asking” usually comes in the form of persistance and consistency in plowing forward towards your goals and ALWAYS Getting up after you’ve been beaten down by life.
Remember: It’s NOT the most talented who usually gets the victory, it’s the guy who keeps getting back up!
Rocky says it best in this clip:
“THAT’S HOW WINNING IS DONE!”
““The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place… and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it.
You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit… It’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward… how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That´s how winning is done.
Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that!” (Rocky Balboa)
A.K.A. GREATEST quote in movie history!
My challenge to you is to read the last part of this poem again:
“… Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”
Now I want you to imagine being on your deathbed. Your family is crowded around you. You’re about to take your last breath and your whole life is flashing before your eyes …
If you keep living the way you’re living right now — are you going to realize & be dismayed that you could have asked for much more of your life?
OR … is a big smile going to part your lips because you’re going to be over-whelmed at the amount of amazing, breath-taking experiences you’ve had in your life … and because you lived each day to the fullest & squeezed damn near every thing that was possible out of life?
The choice is yours. Choose WISELY