How To Deal With Haters

by Caleb Lee on June 12, 2009

hatersI‘m not sure what it is about being successful or trying to help people … but when you’re doing either of these things — the haters start coming out of the wood work … so today, we’re going to learn how to deal with them!

How To Identify a Hater:

It’s easy to figure out if someone is hatin, a hater, or even just a normal dude–but sippin on the hatorade:

  • Jealously – “is a weak emotion” according to Jay Z and jealousy seeps through everything a hater does/says …
  • Illiterate — usually the hater displays his hatitude while exemplifying this trait …
  • Un-Educated – maybe not formally (in fact, the hater-tude often rises alongside the “book smarts”), but definitely in whatever area the hater is exercising his hate on …
  • Scared – to take a stand themselves … to do something “diffferent” … or even to step out from being anonymous …
  • LOVE the internet & Youtube – because they can comment on anything they want and it’s totally anonymous. For some reason, I swear to God, just going on youtube.com lowers the average IQ about 15 points (judging purely from the quality of comments!)

I’m serious about that last one. For some reason, people think “oh, the internet is free and an anonymous way to be a hater–I’ll never have to step up and be a man or take responsibility for my actions” and they just hate away. Get drunk off the haterade.

The image here explains the phenomenon clearly …

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“Count It All Joy”

In the Bible, the apostle James talks about counting all trials and tribulations as “joy” — and you should do the same thing when you start getting haters.

Why?

Because it means you’re DOING something!

Like my mentor Dan Kennedy says, “If you’re not pissing off at least one person per day–you’re not trying hard enough”.

If you’re not pissing people off … if you’re not triggering hatitude among a large portion of the average population … then you’re probably playing it safe.

You’re probably afraid of flying high and being as awesome as you want to be because you don’t want people to hate you …

Here’s the thing though: you’ll always have haters.

“Haters Hate. That’s They Job!”

My man Katt Williams is a genius when it comes to how to think about haters, check this clip out (warning: language is NSFW):

In case you missed it:

“You need haters. What the **** is you complaining about? What the **** do you think a haters job is? To ****ing hate. So let them mother****er do their goddamn job. What the **** is you complaining about? Ladies if you got 14 women hating on you, you need to figure out how the **** to get to 16 before the summer get here. What the **** is you mad about? Fellas if you got 20 haters, you need 40 of them mother****ers. What is you complaining about? If there’s any haters in here right now that don’t have nobody to hate on, feel free to hate on me.”

-Katt Williams-

Example of a Hater

So the other day, I got this haterade inspired comment here on the blog in regards to my article on the six meals per day myth:

hahahaha this article has been written by a person knowing nothing about biology and how the digestive system works..

Your an idiot Caleb.. an IDIOT, and how dare you suggest this stupidity to other people?!

If you don’t eat for more than 8 hours, your stomach starts producing a digestive acid that helps break down food when you consume it, but if there is no food that you have consumed then the acid starts breaking through the walls of your stomach, which leads to dangerous problems in your organism.

WOW!

Not only is this completely and totally untrue, having no basis in science … but it has all the symptoms of hatertude:

  • Anonymity – he left MY NAME as his name and email because he’d rather bash anonymously …
  • Name Calling — it must still be working for him like it did back in 1st grade …
  • Completely Unsupported Claims — while I don’t always cite every sources I at least back up all my claims with links, common sense, logic, or at least a reference to something.

But this guy. NOTHING!

Just a Pure Hater :)

And like Katt Williams says I’m glad this guy is hatin’. That’s his job. What else is he gonna do? While he’s working his minimum wage job with no prospects for the future, he’s gotta do something while he’s at work — to spend his bosses money right?

A Hater Challenge

In fact, Mr. Hater, if you are reading this post and you remember writing this nice little blog comment — I’ll tell you what …

I’ll give you a public forum to hate away: if you write me a real article explaining your viewpoint on eating six meals a day and this “killer” stomach acid that develops after 8 hours of no food — and you back it up — I’ll give YOU the public forum to hate away!

Why Mr. Hater Will Never Take Me Up On This Offer

Because he’s a hater. That’s his job. He’s not out to help people. He just hates. Come on, prove me wrong :)

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Al S June 12, 2009 at 5:57 pm

I watched Katt Williams show on tv and that quote never really sunk in until i read this article. The more haters you have the more you are accomplishing in life! What an eye-opening article.

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Nick Dragon June 12, 2009 at 6:01 pm

My favorite are the ones that discover just enough information to become dangerous. Every opportunity, every conversation overheard becomes another chance to show they have a doctorate degree in whatever topic is on the table and they have the real deal. They will only be happy to let you in on it.

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Caleb Lee June 12, 2009 at 7:10 pm

@ Al: Glad you ‘get it’ now :)

@ Nick: yes! everyone’s all to ready to be an expert … :)

Later!
Caleb

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Brucie June 16, 2009 at 7:29 am

That anonymous dude is a f’n retard. I’ll be his hater, not due to his superior intellect but that fact he’s a mouthy dick who knows nothing. And I hate people like that.

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Caleb Lee June 16, 2009 at 11:18 am

@ Brucie: I wish I could have said it so eloquently :)

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Jake February 20, 2010 at 5:08 pm

What a great article Caleb, thanks!!!

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Caleb_Lee February 22, 2010 at 5:22 pm

Jake!

You're very welcome :)

Best,
Caleb

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ilovemyhubbychrisxoxoxo February 21, 2010 at 8:37 am

I have these haters in my class and they are so annoying, I have this one chick who seems so gay, and she wants some guy who is my left overs, not even I didn’t want him so I took him out of the fridge and let him rot. Lol. And this big guy who is soo stupid, if you can’t get it right then just quit. And I have this short hater and this weird hater who looks like a messed up sheep. Anyways I don’t know why they hate me I didn’t do anything to them but this spring I’m going to give them even better reasons to hate:)

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Caleb_Lee February 22, 2010 at 5:21 pm

Hahaha, I didn't know you could do all that with left overs :)

Thanks for the comment,
Caleb

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Kaleb February 21, 2010 at 9:11 am

Man i feel ya kaleb !! I got haterz everwhere i go !! I love it !!!

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Caleb_Lee February 22, 2010 at 5:21 pm

Haha, awesome Kaleb :)

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charlene April 1, 2010 at 5:02 am

I am a 49 year old women very attractive and nice body for my age. However, that does not make me the person i am. very down to earth and nice person to be around. but other women won,t give me a chance to show them who i really am…. JUST HATERS!!!!!!

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Caleb_Lee April 1, 2010 at 2:31 pm

Aww Charlene! I feel for you!

I would be more than happy to let a 49 year old woman who is very attractive and has a nice body for her age show me who she really is :)

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Hakim The Dream May 5, 2010 at 5:52 am

As a new rapper I get hella hate by myspace n all that but I have yet to see on hater come up to me and say fuck you cuz they know damn well what would happen lol. Right now i’m down and out cuz of these haters it’s overwhelming when you have to be around rain an white kids that sit around all day an talk shit usualy I’m ok with haters, but sometimes thatshit gets to me and sometimes idk how to handle it cuz I’m always out there it’s just agravating sometimes I feel like I wana drop what I’m doin and just hit the reset button on my life n move somewhere new but I know that that’s what the haters wana do is throw me off my ladder what do y’all do to get over that feeling cuz I’m just like WTF status right now

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Caleb_Lee May 5, 2010 at 9:52 pm

@ Hakim:

I'm not a rapper but I'd say drop some tracks like eminem did — shit half his raps are about people he hates and what's pissin him off at the time — maybe that's why? He was a white rapper and had to deal with TONS of shit like that all the time. Use it as fuel man, that's what I would do. If you're still angry after a couple new 16's just keep going — put out like 10 mixtapes like weezy did so people can't help but hear you no matter how much they try and ignore you.

"ya dig?" :)

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Caleb_Lee May 5, 2010 at 9:52 pm

@ Hakim:

I'm not a rapper but I'd say drop some tracks like eminem did — shit half his raps are about people he hates and what's pissin him off at the time — maybe that's why? He was a white rapper and had to deal with TONS of shit like that all the time. Use it as fuel man, that's what I would do. If you're still angry after a couple new 16's just keep going — put out like 10 mixtapes like weezy did so people can't help but hear you no matter how much they try and ignore you.

"ya dig?" :)

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milkywaystyle August 9, 2010 at 6:20 am

bro i know how you feel. i’m a milker (a style of techno dance). and no matter how many complements i get it’s just those one or two haters that really get to me and throw off my mojo and make me wanna quit.

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Young g January 28, 2011 at 11:42 pm

yo i feel ya bro im goin through the same shit and my mixtape just dropped so all these preppy ass white kids in my highschool are talking shit on you tube and on face book and shit and they tellin me to back to my countryand that i should quit and kill my self and shit but imma not let these haters ruin my dreams

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Eric June 17, 2010 at 8:35 pm

Talk about timing! I received this post two days agoit has been a while since I got any hate let alone random hate. On my way to work yesterday,I’m walking and come to a stop sign. Instead of stopping,the car heading towards me not only blows the stop sign,but the dude driving flips me off as he passes! A month ago I quit a few bad habits and started working out I loo and feel more confident. Since I did nothing to provoke the guy,my guess is I got myself a hater! I handled it with class-nodded hello afte he did it-then remembered this post and laughed my ass off. Best way to handle hater?wink smile and look good doing it!

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Caleb_Lee July 7, 2010 at 5:52 pm

Good for you!

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Lady wildcat February 12, 2011 at 6:04 am

Humans are jackasses. Why do we feel the need to hate without reason? I thank you for this. I recently ran into some haters on a recent picture I just posted. And you know what? After I read this article, I actually felt better! I'm still sick to my stomach at the idea of someone hating for no reason, but I guess I'm happy now!

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Katherine April 12, 2011 at 1:33 pm

I so loved this article. Going through some of this myself. It seems the more I advance and create, the more haters pop up. The analogies you exampled are perfect for understanding the so called "hater". I personally choose to ignore them, and many of their comments won't see the light of day since they bring nothing to the context of my business in terms of helping women, but I was glad to find out as I peruse other articles and visit YouTube, it seems to be prevalent. But your article, all the more put it into perspective so well.

Thanks for your insight and sharing your personal experience with those that choose to hate…we have become a society of blurters all under the guise of anonymity.

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Caleb_Lee April 25, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Great Katherine!

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Elias April 18, 2011 at 8:55 pm

Thanks a lot for the helpful article. I was feeling really bad because I got so many haters in college, I don’t even know why they hate me! But this article kind off made me feel better.. And I hope you post more articles regarding this topic, many people need help to get rid of haters.

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Caleb_Lee April 25, 2011 at 1:41 pm

Awesome!

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Patty H August 14, 2011 at 12:21 pm

Wow Great Article….as of now i'm learning how to laugh at and deal with haters…it's amazing how some of my haters are the very ones i thought would have my back…smh…an so early in my career….but the sooner the better i guess that way these low lifes won't get an oppurtunity to benefit from my success in the future….Thanks for the article

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A-Robot September 19, 2011 at 4:34 am

Same with me, I try to show my so called friends my music and it doesn’t matter how many compliments I get, I can’t get those few haters who r supposed to be my friends out of my head

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